Def check it out!

Wow. I have to say, y’all made my little nonbinary heart sing today. Thanks for being such active participants through chat, thanks to the great facilitators M and Y (I didn’t write down the spellings of your names, so sorry) and for just being PRESENT. So I’m linking a few things below:

The notes from the session, divided by what topic folks were responding to. I took out all info that could possibly identify anyone (eg if you named your job I took that out) while trying to keep all the valuable thoughts, tips and contributions intact.

This is the powerpoint from today.

If you want me to email you when we put together the trans grief ritual, add your email address here. The email list will be ONLY for this specific project, and it’ll just be a few emails when we make it happen, maybe at PTWC next year, maybe before that online.

If you want to keep up on what I’m up to in general, you can follow me on social media:

 youtube & twitter & Instagram. If you need a laugh, youtube is the place to go, I’ve been working on stop motion animations of my um. misadventures, like White Water Rafting While Genderqueer 

If you’re looking for other resources, I have a bunch of healthcare-related zines, coloring sheets on my free resources page. And if you don’t see what you need, email me at kellidunham@gmail.com or text me at 215.964.1963. Oh and also, if you need help learning to ask for help (that’s kind of meta, isn’t it?) I put up some resources on this topic here.

OH ALSO, I’M A TRAUMA INFORMED COMEDIAN. Want me to come to your college? A full PDF to convince the rest of the folks at the LGBT center that I’m awesome can be found…

Did you come here after Kelli’s workshop on The Fine Art of Asking For And Accepting Help?

Here are the resources Kelli referenced-

Kelli’s zine You Don’t Have To Love Your Body To Take Care Of It includes a lot of info about asking for help/assistance in health care situations.

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha’s account of Creating Collective Access at the AMC in Detroit. A really beautiful example of mutual aid in action, and a reminder that nondisabled folks are building their mutual aid on the work that’s been done by other groups (folks with disabilities, poor communities and communities of color) for generations.

Dean Spade writing about mutual aid (really academic but has some great history) and a practical guide from AOC’s office.

If you’re struggling with asking for help, sometimes 12 step programs such as Codependent’s Anonymous, Al-Anon and ACOA can be helpful. Sometimes. They often include a whole lotta God talk which doesn’t suit everyone and some folks find the framework too rigid for their taste. But if you need support to start prioritizing your own needs, a meeting might not hurt. Most local groups host their own online meetings but there’s also a bunch hosted here.

Come here after the NYC Gender Conference? It was great to share with y’all!

Here are some of the resources we talked about:

Easily printable version of You Don’t Have To Love Your Body To Take Care Of It

Strategy Words For Medical Self Advocacy

Mick Measuring Spoons Moran has a great template for a one page health cheat sheet here

If you’d like me to present (virtually or otherwise) at your organization, check out all the different workshops and fun stuff I do here.

My Queer Body Matters coloring sheet

Kelli’s Angry Queer Tees!

Free zine download- You Don’t Have To Love Your Body To Take Care Of It

Free zine download- Hey Let’s Go Get A Pap Exam

Need to help creating your own storytelling series? Some notes from what Kelli learned with Queer Memoir.

Follow Kelli on facebook,youtube & twitter & instagram

You can find Not the Gym Teacher everywhere comedy is given away: Spotify, Apple Music and Youtube

So sorry if I missed you with all the bananapants technology stuff. And thanks to folks who hung out and chatted. Okay, first thing to remember IF YOU GET BAD HEALTH CARE IS IT NOT YOUR FAULT. That’s not what medical self advocacy is about. It’s about having skills and tools to work in an imperfect system.

The notes for the Talk the Talk: Improving Medical Self Advocacy by Learning the Vocabulary of Health Care Providers is here.

I mentioned the video about how to deal with the emergency room….which is a great thing to think about before you have an emergency is here.

I put together a zine called You Don’t Have To Love Your Body to Take Care of It, it’s all crowdsourced ideas for medical self-advocacy, especially for traumatized folks. You can find that here

If you’re struggling with getting a pap exam, I have a zine about that too, it’s called Hey Let’s Go Get A Pap Exam, it’s here.

Need an inspirational (and hopefully grounding) coloring sheet for your medical provider visits?

Finally, if you just need a laugh, here’s a little taste of my new comedy CD NOT The Gym Teacher. I’m touring this winter and spring with House Concerts For the Resistance which means I will come to your house (or other location you provide), make your friends laugh, and you can pass the hat for any progressive/ human need cause you’d like. Details here.

FINALLY MY PHONE NUMBER IS 215.964.1963, TEXT ME IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS. OR REACH OUT VIA EMAIL AT KELLIDUNHAM@GMAIL.COM OR ALL THE REGULAR SOCIAL MEDIA CHANNELS, IF THAT’S BETTER FOR YOU.

YOU DESERVE HEALTHCARE

YOU DESERVE HEALTHCARE

YOU DESERVE HEALTHCARE